An IPS officer who took his own life minutes after his wife’s passing.
Grief is one of the most challenging emotions we experience as humans. The recent tragic news about IPS officer Shiladitya Chetia from Assam, who took his own life minutes after his wife’s passing, is a stark reminder of ๐ต๐ผ๐ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐ณ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฐ๐๐น๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ฏ๐ฒ, ๐๐ผ ๐ต๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ๐น๐ฒ ๐ด๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฒ๐ณ. As we process this heartbreaking event, it is important to understand the profound impact of ๐น๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ ๐น๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ผ๐ป๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ต๐ผ๐ ๐๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ฝ๐ฒ with such a loss.
Understanding Grief
Grief is a natural response to loss, but it affects us all differently. Some people may feel shock and disbelief, such as โthis can never happenโ, while others experience deep sadness, anger, or even guilt. It is important to know that ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ถ๐ ๐ป๐ผ “๐ฟ๐ถ๐ด๐ต๐” ๐๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ด๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฒ๐๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ป๐ผ ๐๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ถ๐บ๐ฒ๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ฒ for when you should start feeling better.
Stages of Grief
Grief usually follows a series of stages that help individuals deal with their loss. According to Elisabeth Kรผbler-Ross, there are five stages of grief:
- Denial: This is when you cannot believe the loss has happened. It is like waking up and thinking it was all just a bad dream. For example, after losing a loved one, you might find yourself still expecting to see them coming and waking you up in the morning.
- Anger: This stage is when you feel intense frustration and helplessness. You might get angry at the situation, the person who left, or even yourself. For example, you might think, “Why did this happen to me?” or “It’s so unfair!”
- Bargaining: At this point, you attempt to negotiate in expectation of a different result. It is like hoping for a miracle, making promises to be a better person, pay a tribute, do charity if only the loss could be undone.
For losses that cannot be undone you might pray or think, “If only I had made a different choice, they could still be with us.” - Depression: This is when the reality of the loss truly sinks in, and you feel deep sadness. You might feel like withdrawing from others and losing interest in activities you once enjoyed. For example, you might find it hard to get out of bed or feel like grief has taken over on almost all walks of life.
- Acceptance: In this final stage, you begin to accept the loss. It does not mean you are okay with it, but you start finding ways to move forward along with the grief. For example, you might start creating new routines and finding new sources of happiness while still cherishing memories of your loved one.
These phases are not straightforward, and individuals might progress through them in various sequences or go back to certain phases more than once. Understanding these stages can provide insight into the grieving process and offer some solace in knowing that these feelings are a natural part of healing.
๐๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐ฎ๐ฏ๐น๐ฒ ๐ง๐ถ๐ฝ๐ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐๐ผ๐ฝ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฒ๐ณ
๐ญ. ๐ฆ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ธ ๐ฆ๐๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ผ๐ฟ๐:
Do not isolate yourself. Reach out to friends, family, or support groups. ๐ง๐ฎ๐น๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ด๐ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ฏ๐ฒ ๐๐ถ๐น๐ฒ๐ป๐ ๐ต๐ฒ๐ฎ๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ฐ๐ฒ๐๐. If you are not comfortable talking to someone you know, consider joining ๐ฎ ๐ด๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฒ๐ณ ๐๐๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ผ๐ฟ๐ ๐ด๐ฟ๐ผ๐๐ฝ where you can share your experience with others who understand.
๐ฎ. ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐ข๐๐๐น๐ฒ๐๐ ๐๐ผ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ด๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฒ๐ณ:
Writing, painting, playing music or gardening can be therapeutic. Expressing your grief creatively can help you process your emotions in a healthy way.
๐ฏ. ๐๐ผ๐ป๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ฌ๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ข๐ป๐ฒ:
Find ways to remember and honour the person you have lost. This could be through a ๐บ๐ฒ๐บ๐ผ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฎ๐น ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ถ๐ฐ๐ฒ, ๐ฐ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ ๐ฝ๐ต๐ผ๐๐ผ ๐ฎ๐น๐ฏ๐๐บ, ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐๐ถ๐บ๐ฝ๐น๐ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฒ๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐บ๐ฒ๐บ๐ผ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐ผ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐. I personally know people who have registered a trust in the name of their beloved and impacting lives.
๐ฐ. ๐ฆ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ธ ๐ฃ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ณ๐ฒ๐๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐ฎ๐น ๐๐ฒ๐น๐ฝ:
If you find that your grief is very difficult to manage and you are struggling to cope, ๐ฑ๐ผ ๐ป๐ผ๐ ๐ต๐ฒ๐๐ถ๐๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ผ ๐๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ธ ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ณ๐ฒ๐๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐ฎ๐น ๐ต๐ฒ๐น๐ฝ.
Let’s take care of each other and ourselves.
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